After me

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The other day Mr Husband started talking about finances (something I can’t really get my head to work on) and then he went on the savings, returns, pension et al... Of course I was lost mid way. I have this ability of switching myself off mentally and dive into my sea of thoughts when I am not interested in the other person’s conversation. Obviously, he does not like it and nobody will. But then that’s me.

Well then in the meantime I thought of things that he should know and do after I die.

Please don’t drape me in a sari and the entire decor when you take me on the funeral ( don't like the idea of dead hindu women being decked up in their bridal trousseau). Firstly I can’t do that to my collections please and moreover I love travelling in comfortable wears, so shorts should be good. Put on some good music for me, I like listening to music while travelling.

Also, no mourning please, I can’t really put up with all those tears very gracefully, so its ok. And of course, I’ve not really been that good to anybody or better still “See you there!”.

As for the last rituals, don’t burn my body, I hate fire.

Ah! Also donate any/ all of my organs that the doctor considers worthwhile for a living person.

I wouldn't want any traditional funeral or shradh ceremony. Friends can have a farewell treat on me.

I wish I had a will to write, an estate to pass over to my next gens, heirloom jewellery or even books of wisdom. All I have is my clothes, my books, my little nothings and I am somewhat possessive by nature, so don’t do anything to my cupboard or my stuffs. Just leave them there till they wear out.

That was about me and my stuffs. Now for the people who mean to me.

Son: Please take care of yourself. You’re a superstar; just remember to have the nutritious platter (fish and veggies for sure).

Mr. Husband: Don’t forget the diet. Remember food is your enemy, I mean excess of it

And a piece of advise for the woman that S may want should tale over me:

Well Girl, you have taken the right step. You chose the right chap but trust me he’s better as a boyfriend than husband. He’s a mess in regular daily activities. Let me give you a bit on his daily routine: Right from the wee hours of the morning, he gets up, does not do his bed, splashes water around the sink without drying it, spends hours together at the loo, and after a shower and dry up leaves the towel on the bed. Then he goes down for a breakfast, does not remember to keep the milk back in the fridge. Finally its time to go to work. Last 5 minutes you will see hi, at his best of activities. Runs up and down the stairs to find a matching tie, then again another 5 times looking for his wallet . Once he has found both of them, he is ready to go…you would think so. Well no, he just remembered that he cant find his ID card. And there he goes screaming…..

That’s about it for the first part of the day.

So, Mr S goes to work, very much enthused with a I Can do it all and does manage to impress a lot of people there. Back home late evening, S finds a way to browse through all the comedy channels and laughing with as much vigour inspite of the fact that he has watched it atleast 7 times before this. Please don’t expect him to move his b* to do anything… mind you he is unwinding. That about sums up his day. Of course, he is a generous chap, he expects everybody in the house to just sit with and bask in his humour and chit chats.

However, on one of the unusual days, when you have not had a good day, you can just pour it out on him He is like this rock solid person, a pillar of patience having oodles of idea for anything that needs to be set right.

Updates on 14/12/2023

Daughter : Sorry, I missed you on the post last time, You were a tiny baby and so much was I taken up with feeding and washing you that I forgot to write a parting now.
10 years on and you're a star. Whatever you do in life, I know you will be deeply loved. Spread the light of joy, wear that million dollar smile and always keep that chin up. Remember,  to stand for yourself, stay fit, work to make it big and keep your hobby going on in the side for stars shine through all of this.  And keep a check on Dada :)

Edits/Adds for the Son 
Son : As I review this post, a couple of additions to last notes from me to you. Please please believe that the world is an absolute beautiful place and the people around are a delight. The world is what you make of it, Laugh and the world laughs with you, Cry and you cry alone.
And why not laugh, its just easier.  Pick up the positives and you will be be surprised what wonders it can do. So what if you don't see immediate results, believe you me  - its the experiences that make it . Talk, discuss and laugh , you're every worth of it.